Temper tantrums are inevitable and a normal part of a child’s development. They are a regular part of a toddler’s life and can also occur in older children.
While we hate tantrums because they make us feel uncomfortable, powerless, and sometimes angry, they should not be perceived as something negative. Unlike adults, children do not have the same inhibitions or control – and they have not learned the tools to handle the triggers that lead to tantrums.
Why do tantrums occur? They happen for a variety of reasons, most often when the child is tired, hungry, uncomfortable, angry or just seeking attention. But mostly tantrums are the result of kids' frustration with the world. They want to do a lot of things that their little bodies and growing minds won’t allow them to do. They can't get something (for example, an object or a parent) to do what they want. They often become frustrated with their own limitations, and therefore lash out in a temper tantrum. This frustration is unavoidable since toddlers do not have the language skills to make the world work the way they want it to. They are still learning how people, objects, and their own bodies work in any given situation.
What is a tantrum? A tantrum can range from whining and crying to screaming, kicking, hitting, and even breath holding. Because kids' temperaments vary dramatically — so some kids may experience regular tantrums, whereas others have them rarely. But they do happen and it is up to the parent to handle them. While tantrums can’t be stopped (and should not be) they can be prevented.
How to prevent tantrums?
Fortunately, there are some things that you can do to handle your toddlers temper tantrums.
How to handle tantrums?
While it is hard to do, you must remain calm during tantrums. Stay cool. Do not get angry or upset. We are all human at the end of the day but it’s important that your child does not see that this certain behavior riles you. You need to remain in control. If your child sees your frustration or anger, the situation will become worse for both you and the child. Take a deep breath and let the tantrum play out.
Tantrums in a public place, what to do?
After the storm
There is an end to the storm. And even though all is calm, do not reward your child by giving into their demands. It’s better to praise your child for settling down. When the tantrum is over, this is the time to talk about what happened and let your child know that they are loved, no matter what.
Temper Tantrums – Guidelines for Parents